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    Feeling Empty: 5 Ways to Heal Your Inner Void

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    by Aletheia · Jan 13, 2022 · 150 Comments

    “I Feel Empty”: 3 Reasons Why Emptiness is Haunting You image

    Your hectic day has finally lulled to a stop.

    There’s nothing left to do. There’s nothing more to say. Now you have time to relax. But instead, the silence descends upon you with oppressive force. You feel suffocated underneath the weight of this momentary, but seemingly eternal, nothingness.

    Suddenly that old feeling returns … the feeling of desolation, the feeling of a gaping inner hole inside. Your insides ache under the gnawing pressure of this profound vacuum. How can feeling empty be so terribly painful?

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    As the feeling intensifies, so does your desire to seek relief. No matter what it takes, you just have to suppress this emptiness a little longer. It seems too hard, too endless to bear such hollowness.

    So you reach for a cigarette, your phone, the fridge, the bottle, the remote control, or the next sexual conquest, all in an attempt to escape your old, dark friend: emptiness.

    Table of contents

    • What is Emptiness?
    • 9 Signs You’re Experiencing Emptiness
    • Emptiness and Spiritual Awakening
    • 3 Reasons Why Emptiness is Haunting You
    • 5 Ways to Feel Better if You’re Feeling Empty

    What is Emptiness?

    Emotionally, emptiness is a feeling of inner desolation: a complete absence of joy, hope, or satisfaction. When a person experiences emptiness, they are plunged into an inner abyss which often results in addictive and escapist behavior.

    Feelings connected with emptiness often include despair, depression, and loneliness.

    Read: Feeling Alone – 13 Ways to Stop Feeling So Lonely and Isolated »

    9 Signs You’re Experiencing Emptiness

    Image of a sad woman who is feeling empty

    Nobody ever tells you that emptiness weighs the most.

    – Anonymous

    Signs to look out for include:

    1. Fear of being left alone
    2. Lack of meaning in life
    3. Feeling empty/hollow inside
    4. Struggling with an existential crisis
    5. The absence of true happiness or fulfillment
    6. Addictive behavior (to escape the emptiness)
    7. Emotional numbness 
    8. Inability to slow down/workaholism (as a form of escape)
    9. Chronic boredom

    Not everyone will share all of these signs, but if you identify with more than half, you are probably struggling with emptiness.

    Emptiness and Spiritual Awakening

    Image of a person with a flashlight against a purple sky

    There’s much more to feeling empty than meets the eye. This is a perplexing emotion (if you can really call it that) that is often closely linked with the process of spiritual awakening. In fact, those who endure chronic emptiness are often led to the spiritual journey in the search for wholeness and inner peace. Trying to cope with the numbness of emptiness each day is enough to eventually trigger major inner life shifts – this can actually be a positive thing. When one’s soul loss (read more about this below) is fully faced and comprehended, a spiritual metamorphosis is ignited.

    3 Reasons Why Emptiness is Haunting You

    Image of a woman sitting with no face

    Contrary to all logic and reason – emptiness hurts. You would not believe the pain and the suffering that can come from a thing which, by all accounts … is not even there.

    – Ranata Suzuki

    As a person who has struggled (and still at times struggles) with emptiness, I can tell you that depression is often a symptom, not a cause, of emptiness.

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    When looking online and listening to others explain emptiness, it is often linked to various mental illnesses such as BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder), Schizophrenia, alcohol and drug addiction, anxiety disorders, and of course depression. But to me, these labels are distracting and often times shallow, meaningless, and even harmful because they don’t go to the root cause of what causes emptiness.

    Don’t get me wrong, while emptiness is sometimes caused by neurological chemical imbalances, I dare to say that for most people, it goes much deeper than that.

    So what are the origins of emptiness? Why does this inner desolation haunt you? I have often explored this topic in-depth privately because it is one of the major issues I have (and still) struggle with.

    When it comes to exploring what is really causing your emptiness, be careful. I’ve run into so many justifications which sound true, but in reality, they are band-aid symptoms of much deeper issues. Here are some of those false reasons I’m talking about:

    • I don’t have a partner.
    • I don’t have enough money.
    • I’m not successful enough.
    • My partner doesn’t love me anymore.
    • I have no close friends.
    • My husband/wife is boring.
    • I don’t have enough sex.
    • I’m not in the right job.

    When you dig deep enough, going to the core of each of these issues, you will find some common themes.

    Here’s what I’ve found lies at the root of emptiness:

    1. Soul Loss

    Soul loss means being disconnected from your soul. All of us have experienced soul loss to some extent. Soul loss is caused, and reinforced, by trauma, abuse, childhood conditioning, materialism, and ego-centered living.

    Soul loss manifests as the eternal sense that something is “missing” from our lives. In other words, it is disguised as the perpetual “search for happiness” which often results in misguided, futile, and externally-focused pursuits. Our obsession with money, fame, power, beauty, and the “perfect” relationship are all attempts to get back that which we have lost: contact with our soul.

    Soul loss is a modern epidemic of epic proportions. It’s symptoms manifest as low self-esteem, suicidal depression, mental illnesses, physical illnesses, rage, grief, and in extreme circumstances, acts of violence, cruelty, and depravity.

    Read: 21 Signs You’re Experiencing Soul Loss »

    2. Lack of meaning and purpose

    When you’ve lost touch with your soul and are feeling empty, you’ll inevitably lose touch with your life purpose. What are you destined to create or do? What does your heart crave to express? How can you experience self-fulfillment? When you experience soul loss … who the hell knows!

    We are all brainwashed and conditioned to act in certain ways. Since childhood, we are pressured to conform and fit into nice little boxes by our parents, teachers, and society at large. When we become adults, it’s the same story, except now we mistakenly believe that we are the ones choosing to study that accounting degree, get married young, get a mortgage, rack up huge student debt, and live a socially “acceptable” life.

    Because few of us were told to look inwards, we live most of our lives externally. We listen to what everyone tells us about who we should be and ignore who we really are. We try to fix our inner wounds by using external distractions. We lock away anything uncomfortable, confronting, or “deep and meaningful” and prefer the comfortable and commonplace instead.

    Why is it that people who experience breakups, job loss, death, and illnesses suffer so greatly? Yes, loss of any kind is painful. But what is more painful is the feeling of emptiness left behind. The creeping sensation that one’s life is not being lived to the fullest, and one’s unique purpose is not being accomplished … now that is fucking scary.

    If feeling empty is becoming an increasingly large problem for you, it could signify that you are starting to become more conscious. You’re starting to spiritually awaken. You’re starting to reach breaking point. Your soul, locked away, is sick and tired of being ignored. It is trying to get your attention. Emptiness is the messenger. And although it may seem like a horrible thing to experience, it is actually a blessing in disguise my friend. (More on that soon.)

    3. Suppressed and Repressed Emotions

    So what happens if you’re living your life purpose? You’re regularly making contact with your soul? You’re devoted to living a path of heart … but that emptiness is still haunting you?

    If emptiness is a constant companion with you, even on your spiritual journey, it could be because you are suppressing and repressing emotion.

    What is suppression and repression (and what’s the difference)?

    Suppression is consciously shutting away your emotions. Repression is unconsciously shutting away your emotions (i.e., you have no conscious awareness that you’re doing it).

    If you grew up in an environment that demanded you to be stoic and punished any form of strong emotional expression, you probably struggle with this issue.

    The problem with suppressing and repressing emotions is that over time, they begin to build and stagnate within you. The more your emotions are dammed up inside, the more disconnected you feel from yourself. The more disconnected you feel, the more you feel empty.

    In other words: you stop feeling your emotions. Life becomes dull and bland. Where you would otherwise feel joy, you feel mild enjoyment. Where you would otherwise feel anger, you feel mild annoyance. Where you would otherwise feel sadness, you feel mild listlessness.

    Shutting out your “negative” emotions not only keeps them at bay but through time, it keeps all of your emotions at bay, positive ones included.

    If you want to read more about this issue, I recommend checking out our article on emotional numbness.

    5 Ways to Feel Better if You’re Feeling Empty

    Image of an empty woman hugging herself

    Personally, I feel empty when I’m not permitting myself to experience my emotions – both good and bad – and also when I’m spiritually disconnected. But the cause for your emptiness might be totally different.

    Take a few moments to reflect on the causes of emptiness above. Ask yourself, “Why am I feeling empty?” and examine each one of the points. Which do you resonate with the most? Keep in mind that it’s possible to feel empty due to all three reasons.

    Now you might be wondering “Yeah, OK, I’m feeling empty … but what’s the solution?”

    Here are some helpful tips:

    1. Establish your own spiritual practice

    Connecting with your soul is not a novel, wishy-washy, one-off experience. It is a serious practice. It is a daily practice that one should commit to for life. You need to make an effort every day to introspect and turn inwards in order to reap the most benefits. And when I mention the benefits, I mean everything ranging from the small and subtle, to the paradigm-shifting-mind-blowing-mystical-experiences.

    This website is full of suggestions on how to connect with your soul, but here is a great place to start. In my current spiritual practice, I make use of dream work, shadow work, inner child work, journaling, the I Ching and oracle/tarot cards, self-love, meditation, spirit guide contact, and prayer (but my practice often morphs and changes).

    I recommend experimenting with various practices that you feel comfortable with at first. This might range from mainstream spiritual practices to more esoteric methods. The main point is that you need to explore what “soul” feels like. If you’re in desperate need of this contact, I recommend finding a local (or international) authentic/trustworthy shaman who can guide you on a spirit quest through the use of plant medicine. Plants such as psilocybin mushrooms, peyote, san pedro, and ayahuasca provide sacred gateways into the realm of soul and spirit.

    2. Seek relentlessly for self-fulfillment

    Emptiness is the ‘possibility yet to be filled.’

    – K. Hara

    Start trying to find what will emotionally, mentally, and spiritually fulfill you. This will require you to look inwards and to possibly ignore everything that everyone has ever told you about who you “should” be.

    Self-fulfillment is 100% personal and up to you to discover. No one can hand it to you on a silver platter. You have to explore what sets your soul on fire and makes your heart sing. YOU have to take the steps, set the goals, and put in the effort because if you don’t, you will wind up feeling empty and unfulfilled.

    Remember, your destiny is in your hands. Once you start taking a proactive approach to your life, you will likely feel much better.

    Read: 9 Exhilarating Ways to Be True to Yourself »

    3. Allow and embrace your emotions

    Feeling our emotions and actively embracing them flies directly in the face of everything we’ve been taught growing up.

    In particular, emotions like anger and sadness are shunned and largely feared because of their ferocious power. Such emotions are usually buried and expressed through sports, alcohol binges, workaholism, or relationship conflicts.

    One powerful and healthy way of letting your emotions out is through catharsis. Catharsis, when done in a safe and private environment, is immensely liberating. Different forms of catharsis include intense exercise, screaming, dancing, laughing, and crying. I personally enjoy crying and punching catharsis because I struggle with repressed grief and rage.

    Other passive forms of catharsis include art therapy and journaling (check out our self-love journal.) In my book “Awakened Empath,” I also explore a technique called SOAR which helps you to experience and regulate intense emotions. (You can check out our Youtube channel for some examples of SOAR put into action.)

    I must stress here that our emotions are not here to be “fixed” or “cured.” You simply cannot rid yourself of anger, jealousy, or grief for your entire life. These emotions are normal and are part of the human experience. What we can do is learn how to let them flow through us without clinging to or dramatizing them. Once all emotions are permitted to dance through you, feeling empty will no longer be a problem for you because life will become vibrant again.

    4. Create your own support network

    You’re an interesting species. An interesting mix. You’re capable of such beautiful dreams, and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you’re not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we’ve found that makes the emptiness bearable, is each other.

    – Carl Sagan

    As much as we like to convince ourselves otherwise, we are not islands. As human beings, we are innately wired to be social. We need some kind of social contact, care, and support to be emotionally and psychologically healthy.

    One of the best ways to stop feeling empty is to seek out others. Try to locate those who feel the same way as you and/or are experiencing similar problems. Realizing that a lot of what you experience is a shared human experience has the potential of relieving you from a lot of suffering.

    If you don’t have anyone in your life right now, there are always support groups online. You can also look into your local community paper and see if there are any communities you could join. There are free help networks like 7cups online, and you could reach out to a therapist/counselor if you desperately need someone to hold space for you.

    Creating a support network doesn’t need to look or be perfect. Even just one or two people can be sufficient enough to help you handle your feelings of emptiness. If you don’t know where to start, hop onto a social media platform and join a group or page to do with emptiness/depression. You can join our group on facebook (called ‘lonerwolf tribe’) if you need a place to go.

    5. Create a solid sense of self

    This may be unconventional, but I believe that possessing a weak sense of self can be the cause and result of feeling empty.

    When we lack a stable ego, we float throat life being tossed here and there with no sense of solidity or wholeness. It’s absolutely imperative that we all have a stable ego as, without it, we simply cannot operate in this world effectively.

    As such, possessing a frail sense of self is kind of like being a vagabond with no home to return to – and feeling empty is often a result. Psychologically speaking, we need to be like the humble snail who carries its shell (ego) around as both a form of protection and shelter.

    I have written more about how to develop a stronger sense of self in the past (you can explore that more in-depth if you like). But for now, here are a few suggestions:


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    • Who are you? What qualities do you love the most in yourself? What are your greatest strengths and weaknesses? Record your responses in a journal, making sure that they’re you’re original thoughts (and you’re not regurgitating what other’s have told you)
    • Reflect on what you genuinely enjoy or what gives your life meaning, and begin to explore these subjects/paths. (Even if it feels a little silly, that’s okay! Be true to yourself.)
    • Take some free personality tests.
    • Learn how to set personal boundaries with others. This will help you to build a grounded sense of self.

    Having a weak sense of self (and the resulting sense of emptiness) is often due to living in a dysfunctional and toxically enmeshed family as a child. If you were raised in an overly-strict family with rigid roles, you were likely taught that “it’s not okay to be you.” This, of course, is utter bollocks. Learning how to love yourself and caring for your inner child will also be tremendously helpful in not only creating a strong identity, but accepting that identity fully.

    ***

    Feeling empty is often a sign that you’re disconnected from something – whether that be your soul, a lack meaning/purpose, or your emotions. But whatever the case, the life force energy within you has become blocked.

    While trying to learn how to overcome inner emptiness can be complex and daunting, I hope this article has taken off some of the strain. My advice is to keep pushing yourself in the direction of growth and expansion. Start small. Keep experimenting. Keep going. What you’re experiencing has a purpose and above all, you are not alone.

    So tell me, what is your journey with emptiness? Which of the above practices do you plan to explore? Please share below. You never know: your story might help others feel less alone.

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    1. the empty hours 2013

      April 04, 2022 at 3:35 am

      Buena pagina web… Gracias, Un saludo

      Reply
    2. Gaby

      March 14, 2022 at 5:38 am

      Thich Nhat Hanh’s talk on emptiness (10 mins): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gqBKiPAVBeE

      Reply
    3. Ketsia

      February 04, 2022 at 3:04 pm

      This article has opened up so much for me. I wonder what people who aren’t empty feel like. This makes me want to go watch movies or read books of people who have an opposite experience just to semi-experience it in a way.

      Reply
      • Ketsia

        February 21, 2022 at 10:07 am

        In other words, the fact that some people DON’T feel like this feels like a privilege in a way

        Reply
    4. Josephyne

      January 25, 2022 at 7:57 am

      Cried my eyes out reading this page. It describes exactly what I am feeling right now. Part of me wants to drink myself into oblivion to make this goddam awful feeling go away, but I know that whilst it might provide temporary relief it is not the answer.

      Reply
      • Mateo Sol

        January 25, 2022 at 1:53 pm

        Thank you Josephyne for having the strength and wisdom to endure through this feeling with the knowledge that eventually it’ll pass and many of us have been in that same place. It’s easy to forget in moments of struggle that the short temporary relief often comes at a huge cost later on as the contrast of not feeling vs feeling again feels all the more intense and drives again down an addictive loop to do it again. Wishing you the best.

        Reply
    5. Mixed Nut

      October 30, 2021 at 12:04 pm

      All I have is the sound of emptiness inside my head to keep me company, I have however finally stopped walking around like my own little personal PR bot telling everyone exactly what I think they want to hear… because I just wanted them to go away but it never helped with that either, only took me 25 years and I would absolutely ask for a refund for those 25 years if I could but I lost the receipt.

      Reply
    6. Cynthia

      June 22, 2021 at 12:48 am

      I feel totally lost and empty. I wouldn’t say I feel depressed. I just don’t understand what I’m feeling and what to do about it.

      Reply
      • m

        September 13, 2021 at 5:31 am

        That’s what emptiness is

        Reply
    7. Max

      June 05, 2021 at 11:00 pm

      Hello!

      I don’t know who to ask this but I’d like to hear your opinion.

      After reading a philosophical metaphor about the one light that fractures differently in different prisms I suddenly realized that it is like that. like it is the light (we) and our brain (prism). After that realization I feel disconnected from my self (like me is not me and why do i have thoughts etc.) and it feels disturbing and stressful. (Before I read this metaphor everything was fine)

      I would really appreciate your answer!

      Reply
    8. Nikki

      May 01, 2021 at 7:29 pm

      Jesus heals all pain. He is our creator and saviour and He fills and completes all voids in the perfect way – because He made us He knows how to heal us.

      Reply
    9. Anaya

      March 12, 2021 at 6:06 am

      For the past few months, I speak to my mum about it but she just doesn’t seem to understand, I know she may not mean it but she makes me feel stupid for feeling this emptiness. I went up to my room and cried. No one is there for me. I just want to feel happiness. Why am I here. I have no purpose. I wanted to fill this empty void so I tried going out on walks, getting good grades, getting fit and healthy. But it just didn’t fill the emptiness at all. I was stuck. I didn’t know what to do anymore. I thought I had given up trying at this point and I may as well go and end it all. It’s scary feeling like that. Terrifying. These monsters of emptiness inside your head just won’t go no matter what you do. I didn’t know what to do so I typed up on google. “Why do I always have a dark empty feeling”. And I came across this website. It made me realise that maybe someone does understand me. And it showed me how to get rid of the emptiness and I thought. I haven’t tried everything yet, I’m not going to give up on life. This emptiness won’t last forever. My soul will always be with me. All I have to do is connect with it.

      Reply
      • Stephan

        April 07, 2021 at 4:30 am

        Ironically we googled the same thing. Perhaps we all could benefit from helping each other.

        Reply
      • Sara

        April 08, 2021 at 11:05 pm

        Anaya, as I am reading this my eyes got watery. I can totally relate to this on a whole level. Whenever I try to express myself and instead I feel unheard or misunderstood I just go back to my room and cry instead. I also feel like no one understands or cares or even tries to comfort me so I just repress those feelings and cry till I feel better. I want to give you a big comforting hug right now and I honestly don’t like physical touch but I can relate so much to this. On every single thing you mentioned here, I feel as well. I hope we find the root of this problem. Take Care!

        Reply
        • Ava Lux

          February 21, 2022 at 10:06 pm

          I know how you feel. Everytime I tell my parents anything negative or that I feel awful, they get angry with me. They really only want to deal with me if things are going well. My mother rips any happiness that I have to shreds by telling me how undeserving I am. I don’t take to my “friends” anything because they’ll just say “it’ll be ok” and change the subject. This is every friend I’ve ever had in my life. I had one friend distance themselves from me because I was “bumming them out” A friend that was like my brother said that he was over it. He said that awful things constantly happen to me and that he’s sick of seeing it and hearing about it. He doesn’t want to deal with it. Basically, I’m saying that I don’t have anyone to talk to either and the times that I’ve reached out, I’ve always been cruelly shutdown.

          Reply
          • Ava Lux

            February 21, 2022 at 10:09 pm

            Reading this over made me sad. It sounds like the problems of a child. I’m a middle aged woman that lives hundreds of miles away from my family. I still haven’t found peace and people that I can talk to yet at this advanced age.

            Reply
      • m

        September 13, 2021 at 5:34 am

        Reading your post is heartbreaking.
        You have so much to love for.
        I hope you find your peace and joy.

        Reply
      • Angie

        October 12, 2021 at 4:05 am

        You are not alone. A lot of us feel the same. It is painful but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You go thru the pain to become better. You will find clarity,

        Reply
    10. Lilith

      February 27, 2021 at 6:17 am

      I was feeling empty today. After having had a weird day I wanted to tell my partner what happened but he didn’t listen.
      So I felt ignored. And I shut down. Stopped talking all together because I didn’t feel heard. Why talk when Noone is listening was my thought.
      But is did want to vent in some way. So I started scrolling on my phone. And I stumbled upon this article and found it interesting.
      I have opened some of the links that I found interesting that I am going to read after this comment.
      The thing that keeps coming back that I am having so much trouble with is self love. I have been taught when I was a child not to be angry and being sad without an obvious reason can’t be real sadness. Which is where my experience with emptiness sombrenes and depression started.
      I would really like to be nicer to myself. But it just feels so damn unnatural. But I do think that it is very important for me to keep trying.
      So thanks for this article. It has been a good starting point for me.

      Reply
    11. Joe Schmo

      February 16, 2021 at 2:03 pm

      I feel more empty after reading this

      Reply
      • mmmmmmmm

        July 20, 2021 at 1:55 pm

        Same

        Reply
    12. DutchessCNG

      February 15, 2021 at 9:05 am

      So, I’m celebrating another solemn birthday-which unfortunately happens to be the (very) heavily marketed day of “love”. My experience with it has more often than not been unrequited. God certainly has a sense of humor- and I’m the human embodiment of it. My birthday ritual of sorts has been a tradition of listening to both Sarah Mclachlan’s “Fear” and Esthero’s “I Drive Alone” on repeat- whose lyrics are almost prophetic for me: “Can’t move on, but I can’t go home and I’m not so strong but I’ll make my way; to the place I know; inside my heart where I used to go; to get brave- and I don’t wanna be lost anymore.” I’ve always struggled with thoughts of emptiness, despair and loneliness- as far back as I can remember. Not sure, but I’ve always felt very alien and different than most around me. I’ve somehow always been conscious that something is terribly wrong with the world in many ways. Years back, I recall finally expressing to my younger sister that I’d often struggled with suicidal ideation (I can’t think of a time I haven’t had persistent thoughts of suicide, actually). Her response: “I know- you’ve always been dark and depressive.” In that moment I realized I hadn’t hidden it as well as I thought I had over the years. Back in college, I fell in love and fell quite hard- it felt as though I had finally met my soulmate. I finally felt an internal spark ignite. I could visualize the future: being married and having children with him ( before then I had never been able to visualize life’s milestones- like having children) Even though throughout that time with him, I did have bouts of emptiness- for the most part- I had put so much effort into the relationship that I couldn’t imagine life without him. Until the moment when we broke up. I felt my entire world crumble; that bright spark extinguished. Though we experienced high’s and low’s, he made me feel alive. Like finally feeling life coursing through my veins. I went into a downward spiral: food became my outlet. I internalized the pain and sorrow and became extremely introverted. Time didn’t heal the wound of our breakup- every day was a constant reminder which made me more sorrowful. Several years later, I saw a psychic that told me that I couldn’t get him out of my head (and she said that he apparently couldn’t get me off his mind either) because we committed suicide together in a former life. Not sure what to make of that revelation but I can’t discount it because it perhaps explains those thoughts from such a young age, and also possibly why the breakup had such a devastating effect on me. That palm reading was 12 years ago, and we’ve been broken up over 17 years now, and it still hurts like it happened yesterday. I have not met anyone else that I’ve cared or loved as deeply as he. We do not keep in contact directly- I am not on social media but he keeps in contact with my sister til this day. He is still with the person he cheated on me with- but they have not married nor had children. I have remained single, unmarried and without children. The emptiness is so familiar now that I cannot imagine myself any other way. I’m working on raising my vibration and I am much more spiritually aware now that I am certain that suicide in this lifetime is not an option for me. Not because I’m in fear of any afterlife repercussions, but if my current life represents a cycle, the only way that I break it is avoiding the same fate of my former lifetime. I liken my current state to Sarah McLachlan’s lyrics in “Fear”- I’ve listened to on repeat as I’ve written this on my birthday evening,
      But I fear
      I have nothing to give
      I have so much
      To lose here in this lonely place
      Tangled up in our embrace
      There’s nothing I’d like better than
      To fall

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      • R

        March 08, 2021 at 9:04 am

        You write so beautifully

        Reply
    13. Celtice

      November 14, 2020 at 2:26 pm

      I recently discovered your website through a chance encounter, I believe through some Google searching. There’s so much here that I resonate with but I’m convinced no one understands me when I try to describe what I’ve been feeling for most of my life. I feel like there aren’t even words for it; it’s as though I’m missing something really important from my consciousness that I’m trying to chase after like grasping at wind. I’m hoping I can begin to find out what that thing is soon.

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      • Aletheia Luna

        January 14, 2021 at 12:41 pm

        I hope so too, Celtice <3 What you describe (something vital missing from you), is what most spiritual seekers feel. I've felt it too, and have come to realize that what was missing was a connection with my Soul. I hope this website can continue to be of help and service to you.

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    14. YN. Guery

      May 09, 2020 at 3:36 pm

      My dog has just died. as a result of that I experience that complete feeling of being lost and emptiness. I also have a very unsure sense of who I am, what i like and what my purpose in life is. My age is 58, so I guess I have missed crucial parts of growing up. I think I will have to do alot of work, to get in touch with my soul and not live the rest of my life as unconciously as I have done untill now. I need help of a support group to keep in working at that and not surrender to indifference and passivity.

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      • Aletheia Luna

        January 14, 2021 at 12:43 pm

        I know this reply is late, but I’m so sorry to hear that YN. I hope you’re feeling more grounded and at peace by now. Please do seek out the help of a local support group if possible. <3 You'll also find many resources for soul searching on this website (e.g. this article is very inspiring: https://lonerwolf.com/soul-searching/ Much love

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      • m

        September 13, 2021 at 5:42 am

        I wish you the best. And I agree with the statement of not surrendering to passivity and indifference, and I have to thank you for making it.
        You just helped to remind me how valuable my life is even in the darkest hours, for I do not live a life of passivity or indifference.

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    15. Christine

      May 04, 2020 at 8:55 am

      The relief to have found someone that gets this on the deep level that I’m experiencing. This journey is fiercely brutal and I am holding on with the infinitesimally smallest bit of hope. Hope that the little light within me – the glimpse of true self – one who has the ability to be happy and reflect love, can be cultivated and may, someday be a real part of my life.

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      • Aletheia Luna

        January 14, 2021 at 12:55 pm

        Keep holding onto that hope, sister. That little light within you will keep growing and growing <3

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      • David

        June 30, 2021 at 12:59 am

        Fiercely brutal

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    16. Crystal

      April 16, 2020 at 8:05 pm

      Page 46 of Google Search. That’s how many pages I scoured before landing here. I’ve been up all night trying to find something I could relate to. Something that made me feel something other than this nothing I’ve grown used to bearing. As I began to read your written words – I felt deep pain, I let out a sigh of relief & tears roll down my face. Though the feeling is pain, any feeling is better than nothing. After years of begging to be numb, what I got wasn’t what I wished for in the least bit. Emptiness is a scary feeling – probably as close to death as one can be without dying.

      I won’t claim to know where I am going just yet – but I’d like to thank you for reminding me what it’s like to feel, and for sharing your outlook for many of us to not feel so alone.

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      • Aletheia Luna

        January 14, 2021 at 12:44 pm

        It is an honor and a pleasure to hear this, Crystal. Your words remind me of the exact reason why I do what I do. <3 Wishing that you find all that you're seeking, Luna

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    17. Sandra Bojen-Taylor

      April 08, 2020 at 12:53 am

      Thank you for this…

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    18. Candy Wright

      March 29, 2020 at 4:15 am

      I have never read anything that so much of everything that I am feeling and want to say. I am going to try 1, 3, 5. I am also ordering the spiritual awakening bundle when I get paid on the first.

      Reply
    19. Hunter Horn

      February 19, 2020 at 10:00 am

      So you think it all has to do with your own personal spirit. please, living for yourself is all the worse. whats the point. there is no meaning in anything. living for yourself is the absolute worst thing you can do. we search for meaning because we don’t have one. the only way to find meaning is to look to God. As in Jesus Christ, the son of God. you want to make up your own meaning? you want to make empty goals and useless aspirations, go ahead. you will feel the exact same when you get there. emptyness. everything is useless. want to live a nice life. meaningless. try it. it will give you nothing without God. I await your response.

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      • Jommamo

        March 11, 2020 at 10:32 pm

        I think DBT therapy might be more effective

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      • Candy Wright

        March 29, 2020 at 4:18 am

        Yes you should have God in your life to, but these guys know exactly what they are talking about. I have never read any but good on this site and I have never read anything that is so in tune with my feelings. I love these guys and think they are great.

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      • Joe Schmo

        February 16, 2021 at 2:01 pm

        Oh shit just get your nails and crucify someone already

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        • Robert

          April 08, 2021 at 1:46 am

          Lmfao my sentiments exactly Religion especially judeo christian tradition was a big part of my trauma. You born agains need to keep your unsolicited advice to yourself

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          • Robert

            April 08, 2021 at 1:48 am

            These chrstians troll these types of sites to spew their beliefs aggressively on others with shame and guilt

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      • Jim

        April 05, 2021 at 12:26 am

        Yes it true,jesus said ‘i am the way the truth and the life’,the bible also says if you’ve got something to say to ‘speak the truth in love’,you seem to be a bit confrontational and lacking there,maybe a bit angry and depressed thus why your here?remember his words ‘Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.

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      • Irena

        April 22, 2021 at 3:20 pm

        Some of us don’t believe in your friend Jesus. We’re happy for you, but spiritually can’t be force fed by those who were force fed themselves. When you meet Jesus personally, come back and tell us what he said. There is God and it’s not what Jesus suggested it was. That much we know. The Bible is too primitive for me to believe that it has explained such a mighty creator.

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