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How to Deal With Loneliness: 12 Healing Practices

by Aletheia Luna · Updated: Apr 3, 2025 · 222 Comments

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Loneliness quote by Aletheia Luna

Loneliness can be compared to a thick winter’s fog.

It stifles and strangles you, pulling you under a heavy blanket of depression, pervading all that you see.

Loneliness causes you to filter life through a lens of emptiness and despair. Your spirit may become so heavy with the weight of your isolation that you often feel like laying down, shriveling up, and dying.


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It many ways, it is.

Loneliness has been linked to an increase in health issues such as dementia, stroke, heart disease, and premature death.

And interestingly enough, loneliness isn’t just an issue faced by singles, widowers, disabled folks, or the elderly – it’s also greatly troubling Millennials, who, due to the impact of social media, are finding themselves feeling more and more isolated.

Whether you feel loneliness in a crowd, in your marriage, in your workplace, friend circle, religion, culture or simply by being yourself, there is hope.

Yes, it’s possible to not only learn how to deal with loneliness, but to also give it a greater meaning and purpose – I’ll show you how (based on painful personal experience) in this article.

Table of contents

  • Loneliness: You’re Not Alone
  • Why Are We Lonely? (13 Possible Reasons)
  • The Deeper Meaning and Invitation of Loneliness
  • How to Deal With Loneliness (Healing Paths)

Loneliness: You’re Not Alone

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As humans, it’s our tendency to believe that we’re the only one in the world feeling the deep level of isolation we’re experiencing. But what we fail to realize that loneliness is a worldwide epidemic. And no, you’re NOT alone – at least in experiencing it.


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Here are some shocking findings from numerous studies/sources which will help you to see how common this issue is:

  • Loneliness affects close to 47% of Americans (source)
  • In Japan, there are more than half a million people under the age of 40 who haven’t left their house or interacted with anyone for at least six months (source)
  • One in four Australians feel lonely at least once every single week (source) and one in five Australians rarely or never have anyone to talk to when they need help (source)
  • 30% of Millenials said they always or often feel lonely compared to 20% with Generation X and 15% of Boomers (source)
  • 9 million people in the UK across all ages are either always or often lonely (source)
  • More than 60% of married people struggle with loneliness (source)
  • 49% of older people in the UK say that television or pets are their main form of company (source)

… and the statistics keep coming and coming. The list above is only the tip of the iceberg!

Can you see how widespread loneliness is and that you’re not alone as you think you are?

Why Are We Lonely? (13 Possible Reasons)

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While loneliness might be universally felt, the reasons why we feel it are unique for each person.

For example, I felt lonely for many years due to the trauma of being brought up in a fundamentalist Christian religion that isolated me from everyone. Being taught that outsiders were “evil” caused me to distance myself from everyone which caused a deep-seated sense of loneliness. (Thankfully, I left religion over a decade ago.)

Other reasons why we can feel lonely often include:

  1. Death of a spouse, child, family member, or loved one
  2. Estrangement from family members
  3. Lacking access to quality relationships where we can share our deepest thoughts, feelings, and beliefs (this can be due to numerous reasons, such as working too much, living in a community that doesn’t meet your needs, struggling to connect to likeminded people, etc.)
  4. Undergoing a quarter life crisis, midlife crisis, or existential crisis
  5. Living alone unwillingly
  6. Possessing different values or beliefs from the vast majority of those around you
  7. Undergoing a spiritual awakening process
  8. Experiencing a dark night of the Soul
  9. Poor, underdeveloped, or neurodivergent social skills
  10. Mental health issues such as anxiety and depression
  11. Childhood trauma and later-life trauma (this also includes being in toxic relationships, struggling with narcissistic family members, physical/emotional/mental abuse, etc.) causing issues like PTSD, C-PTSD, and other trauma symptoms
  12. Having a disability (such as autism, ADHD, etc.)
  13. Chronic health issues (like fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, etc.) and other physical disabilities

However, perhaps one of the biggest overlooked reasons why many of us struggle with loneliness is because we lack a deep connection with our soul – the deep spark of love and wisdom within us. This issue is known as soul loss.

Ultimately, loneliness is very subjective. For example, someone living alone with no friends might seem lonely to an onlooker, but on the inside, they might be perfectly content and relaxed.

On the other hand, a person with a big family and successful career might seem happy to the general public – but inside, they might feel totally and utterly alone.

There really is no one ironclad stereotype when it comes to loneliness.

The Deeper Meaning and Invitation of Loneliness

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Although loneliness seems pretty straightforward on the surface, I would argue that loneliness actually contains within it a great secret.

And that secret is that loneliness can be a doorway to reconnecting with our Soul and an invitation to seek out our True Nature beyond our limited ego selves.

There is a certain wisdom inherent in loneliness in that it teaches us that nothing outside of us can truly make us happy, because everything and everyone can be taken from us in an instant.

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Our loved ones can die, we can grow distant from our partners and children, we can lose close friends, and we can grow discontent or disillusioned with our various social groups. Literally anything that we rely on as a crutch to avoid being lonely or alone can vanish in an instant. This is a reality that most of us prefer to avoid, but loneliness throws this harsh reality back into our faces to deal with directly.

One of the major reasons I began this website (“loner-wolf”) in the first place is that I had come face-to-face with the joy, despair, and wisdom within being alone and facing loneliness.

Loneliness strips our life down to the essentials. It asks us to examine what truly makes us happy, how we can find joy without depending on the external world, and go more deeply inwards in search of our true home.

Loneliness encourages Soul searching, self-reflection, contemplation, independence, self-reliance, self-sovereignty, and a more conscious relationship to the world around and within us.

Without loneliness as a slap on the face to wake us up, asking us “what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” (in the words of poet Mary Oliver), it’s likely that we would just amble through life doing and thinking what everyone else does.

Like unconscious automatons running on a capitalistic treadmill that is slowly destroying the world, our lives may have very well just trickled away meaninglessly without the clarion call of loneliness to graciously disturb us.

Now, I understand that loneliness is not always so meaningful for everyone (although, I challenge you to not find a deeper meaning in it). For some people, loneliness is a sign of deep depression or even suicidal desolation. So if that is the case, by all means seek to avoid loneliness. Find help. You can access a list of suicide hotlines here if you do feel this urge.

With that aside, loneliness is often a sign of the spiritual awakening journey – and more specifically, the dark night of the Soul in which one feels alone in the world and separated from anything Divine.

But as uncomfortable as the dark night can be, it helps us to tune out of the external world and listen to the deeper inner call, giving us the incentive and motivation to reconnect with something greater than our individual selves.

You can watch a video we created on the spiritual purpose of loneliness below:

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How to Deal With Loneliness (Healing Paths)

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If you’re suffering from chronic loneliness – which is an epidemic that’s increasing in our society according to numerous studies – please know that it is possible to transform this experience into something positive. And you don’t even have to put in too much effort in most circumstances.

As someone who has had a lot of experience with loneliness (I’ve spent a large portion of my life feeling lonely and isolated, even around others), I’ve compiled a list that I hope will help you learn how to deal with loneliness below:

1. Learn to have fun by yourself again

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Loneliness is not cured by human company. Loneliness is cured by contact with reality, by understanding that we don’t need people. ​

— ​Anthony de Mello

This was perhaps one of the most surprising but fun methods I used to learn how to deal with loneliness.

When we lose friends or family members – or simply drift away from everyone around us – we tend to lose all sense of fun and playfulness, often preferring to wallow in our misery instead.

Realize that you can have fun alone and that you don’t need to rely on others to make you happy. The person who can enjoy life alone can never have happiness taken away from them – to truly understand this is liberating!

I know it sounds wacky and a little juvenile (well, I was 19), but my journey with regaining my playfulness started in the bathrooms of a well-established university. Sick of the day-to-day drabness of socially isolating study, I printed out flyers about diarrhea and stuck them all over the walls and mirrors of a women’s bathroom. (I never knew how liberating fecal matter could be!)


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But you don’t have to do something as wacky as I did to learn to have fun by yourself again. Start by doing something small that you enjoy, and take it from there. Perhaps you decide to take yourself to a move alone, explore a new part of town, or buy yourself some flowers.

Yes, it is possible to regain much of what you have lost, all by yourself. You will be a stronger and better person that way. Why? Because you won’t rely on, or use, other people for your entertainment.

2. Learn to laugh again

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Laughing has been scientifically proven to benefit your health. But what happens when you’re lonely? Well, chances are, you don’t laugh much. Or at all. (I know that I didn’t.)

When you really think about it, we greatly we rely on others to make us happy, sometimes too much so. That’s why learning how to laugh again, by yourself, is so important – it empowers you!

If you find it hard to find something to laugh about, try putting on a funny film or go on Reddit and subscribe to threads like r/ThereWasAnAttempt, r/Funny, or r/ContagiousLaughter.

Not only does laughing take your focus away from yourself and your misery, but it replenishes those endorphins in your brain again, making you feel happy. Seeking to laugh is probably one of the most enjoyable ways of learning how to deal with loneliness.

3. Practice mirror work

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Spend quality time with yourself, just like you would with a friend or someone you love. One powerful way of doing this is by practicing something called mirror work. Mirror work is simple, and all it requires is a mirror, openness, and some free time.

To practice mirror work for the purpose of connecting deeply with yourself, spend five minutes a day gazing gently at yourself in a mirror. I understand how bizarre that might sound, but staring deeply into your eyes and smiling every time you see yourself really makes you feel happy (even if it takes a little bit of practice). But don’t believe me – try it out for yourself!

One result of this strange practice is an increase in self-love and self-acceptance – especially when you pair this practice with loving affirmations such as “I accept you,” “I forgive you,” “I love you,” etc.

Every day we tend to look at ourselves in the mirror to pamper and preen, but we only do it superficially. But have you ever stopped to stare at yourself – earnestly? Try it, and you may be blown away by how much self-awareness and self-compassion you can develop.

4. Become your own best friend

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I’m sure you’ve had a best friend in the past that now, for one reason or another, has drifted away.

Even if you’ve never had a best friend before, how do you observe best friends treating each other on TV? Most people would say that best friends treat each other with kindness, care, and consideration.

Let me ask you a question: do you treat yourself with kindness, care, and consideration? If not, why? Why can’t you be your own best friend? What is it about yourself that you’re so insecure about? Don’t you deserve love and respect just like everyone else? (If you struggle to answer this question, you might like to look into your core beliefs.)

Many people falsely believe that a best friend can only be someone else. But this is an absurd idea, because how can you learn to love and appreciate people truly if first you don’t love and appreciate yourself? It’s still possible to love others when you don’t love yourself, but it’s much harder and requires more effort.

To become your own best friend, treat yourself kindly. Compliment yourself. Be considerate towards yourself and respect your strengths and weaknesses.

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Here are some further resources you can explore to help you become your own best friend and learn how to deal with loneliness better:

  • How to Love Yourself (No Bullsh*t Guide)
  • 39 Self-Care Ideas For Those Who Struggle With Self-Love
  • Self-Love Journal (premium resource and in-depth guidance)

5. Become your own counselor

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Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself.

– Carl Jung

One of the most irritating things in the world is listening to people who moan and complain about their problems but don’t stop to question why they’re happening, or what they can do to solve them.

While it’s natural for us to complain (it can be therapeutic), constant whinging wastes energy and gets us nowhere when trying to learn how to deal with loneliness.

Becoming your own counselor is invaluable because it allows you to explore your problems, rather than wallow in them.

Ask yourself, Why am I lonely? When did it start? How am I feeling? Why am I feeling that way? What can I do to solve my loneliness? (By the way, kudos to you for checking out this article, because, in a sense, you’re being your own counselor right now.) Analyzing your thought processes is a wonderful way of putting them into a new perspective.

When I experienced loneliness I read self-help books, started keeping a journal, and mapped out my issues on pieces of paper to give them a visual perspective. The more I analyzed them and looked at them with different perspectives, the easier I found it to address my inner turmoil. I also highly recommend looking into internal family systems as a rich psychological system if you want to learn how to deal with loneliness better.

Note: being your own counselor doesn’t discount the need to access a trained professional counselor. But if you don’t have the ability, for any reason, to access a trained counselor (such as due to low income), adopting the role of counselor can help you to step into a new part of yourself outside the realm of “the lonely one.”

6. Be near people

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By nature, we’re social beings – it’s hardwired into us to crave the physical, emotional, and psychological company of fellow human beings, hence the existence of loneliness. So go out and be near people, even if that just means by proximity.

Go and sit anonymously in a public space. Walk around a library and sit down. Drink something at a cafe with sunglasses on. These simple practices are both entertaining (people-watching is always interesting) and comforting due to the fact that you’ll at least be around others.

Although this point doesn’t necessarily cater to your emotional and psychological needs, it’s a start and was something I definitely found useful while learning how to deal with loneliness.

7. Volunteer and have a reason to be around others

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Volunteer or join an interest group. Take small steps to get out of your comfort zone. Check your local newspaper, sign up to a Facebook group in your area, or go on meetup.com.

There are many beautiful, kindred souls to be found in volunteering circles and interest groups. In fact, if you’re looking for a friend, this is the perfect way to meet new people.

Loneliness tricks you into thinking that everyone is alike and that you won’t ever be able to find a kindred soul. But by doing the math, it’s easy to see that we’ll most likely find someone to truly connect with eventually if we seek out a mutual interest, like a crochet group or hiking club.

If you have a certain personality type (like introversion) or disability like autism, try seeking out groups of people who share the same traits and behavioral dispositions. You can start online and build up to eventually meeting in person (if that’s important to you). Similar minds think alike after all!

8. Take care of yourself physically

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Neglecting yourself when you feel down is tempting. But taking care of your body is the beginning of recovering a sense of self-sovereignty, connectedness, and learning how to deal with loneliness in a healthy way. So be playful. Your body deserves comfort, grooming, and pleasure.

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Have a bubble bath. Lie on a soft pillow. Buy yourself a nice treat. Get a massage. Do your hair. Drink some tea or fine wine. The more I respected my body, the more I found respect for myself in honoring my comfort and taking care of my needs.

9. Listen to calming music

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Don’t make the mistake of listening to depressing or dark music to match your mood. While dark music can provide a nice emotional release, often it just winds up making us feel even worse.

Instead, try listening to up-beat, classical, or ambient music (this will increase the endorphins, or happy chemical, in your brain).

If you want some keyword suggestions, get YouTube up on your browser and search for “happy relaxing music,” “ambient music,” “binaural beats positive energy,” “emotional healing music,” “singing bowls,” and so on. I particularly love listening to wind chimes and hang drums: they’re light, ethereal, and uplifting.

10. Learn to love joy more than misery

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It’s quite possible that you’re in love with your misery at this very moment in time. I know this sounds bizarre and a little shocking.

Speaking from personal experience, I realized at some point that I was accustoming myself too much to a miserable way of life. After a while, when all we know is isolation and depression, we tend to grow accustomed to this way of living. It becomes the norm. And in a sickly way, it even provides us with a sense of comfort. This means that when we try to break our “norm” of isolation and depression we become uncomfortable, suddenly thrown out of our comfort zone.

This fear can lead to self-sabotaging behavior that is designed to try and regain that sense of comfortable (yet stagnant and miserable) safety. Becoming aware of this can truly liberate you when learning how to deal with loneliness.

Being attached to our misery can arise in the form of a victim mentality or martyr complex. So if you struggle with the tendency to wallow in melancholy (and even, if you’re honest, find yourself enjoying it from a place of self-righteous indignation with the world), try to shift gears. Find ways of feeling empowered and self-sovereign again. While it’s true that you may have been victimized, you don’t have to live as a victim. You can be a survivor and thriver as well.

These journaling ideas, morning affirmations, and healing meditations can help.

11. Understand that it’s possible to be alone, but not lonely

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This is a simple mindset shift when it comes to learning how to deal with loneliness, but it makes a world of difference.

Sometimes the loneliness we feel is a byproduct of what society tells us. After all, we are all sold the idea that being in a heterosexual relationship with 2-3 children and a job is meant to be the pinnacle of normality and non-loneliness.

But is it?

Why should we believe and adopt this idea and let it affect OUR happiness?

Just because we find ourselves alone, divorced, widowed, friendless, and so on, doesn’t mean we’ve failed. Nothing in life is permanent, even the position you find yourself in now. So then, why should we allow ourselves to be pressured to feel like there’s something “wrong” with us when everything is temporary.

It is absolutely possible to be alone but not lonely. In fact, some of the most isolated people in the world have also been the most successful and/or happy (think of spiritual ascetics, monks, saints, writers like Emily Dickinson, innovators like Einstein, and artists like Greta Garbo who famously stated “I want to be alone”).

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12. Find an animal companion

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If you can’t, don’t want to, or don’t have the time to connect with other people at this point in life, an animal companion is a wonderful way to feel emotionally connected to another living being.

Adopting a dog, cat, rabbit, bird (or whatever you resonate with) from a local shelter is not only an act of compassion, but it ensures that you’ll have another living being to spend your days with.

Not only that, but often animals have a way of reconnecting us back to other humans. Dogs, for example, are a beautiful way of forming connections, even fleeting ones, with other dog owners at the park.

(Bonus) 13. Reconnect with your Soul

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Right at the heart and core of loneliness is often a disconnection from our innermost Self.

In other words, often loneliness is not just about having a lack of company, it’s actually a deeper symptom of disconnection from one’s Soul.

When we are disconnected from our Soul we struggle with lethargy, demotivation, depression, and the desire to isolate ourselves from others. This is known as Soul loss, and it’s a common issue in society.

In order to reconnect with your Soul, you will need to practice inner work and Soul work to remove the blocks (in the form of negative beliefs, traumas, and core wounds) that stand in the way of your inner Light.

One powerful way of beginning inner work and Soul work is by starting your own spiritual practice. (And yes, you can still be religious or an atheist and have a spiritual practice – it’s how you define it that matters.) Read more about spirituality to begin the next step in your journey.

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Loneliness, longing, does not mean one has failed but simply that one is alive.

— Olivia Laing

I hope this article has helped to inspire you to learn how to deal with loneliness better.

Please remember that no matter how isolated you feel, there is always something you can do to feel a little better. And in fact, the likelihood is that someone living in the very same suburb as you right now is feeling something similar. You’re not as alone as you think.

For further reading, I highly recommend that you check out the articles I wrote called Feeling Alone: 13 Ways to Stop Feeling So Lonely and Isolated and How to Embrace Being a Lone Wolf and Walk Your OWN Path.

What has your experience been like with social isolation or loneliness?

For example, have you learned how to deal with loneliness in your own unique way (that hasn’t been shared here)?


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About Aletheia Luna

Aletheia Luna is a prolific psychospiritual writer, author, educator, and intuitive guide whose work has touched the lives of millions worldwide. As a survivor of fundamentalist religious abuse, her mission is to help others find love, strength, and inner light in even the darkest places. She is the author of hundreds of popular articles, as well as numerous books and journals on the topics of Self-Love, Spiritual Awakening, and more. [Read More]

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  1. Cynthia L Arnold says

    May 29, 2018 at 12:48 am

    I am thrilled that I found this site. I am 65, been a widow 4yrs. I just moved into my very own place 3 mos ago. This is the first time I have ever lived alone. I am so happy I could bust!! I talk smack to myself ,& Laugh!! I am a confident, strong, young-at-heart, mother of 2, 30yr old sons. I must be one of the few parents today to honestly say I am so proud of these 2 young men. They stayed on the straight path to be accomplished young men. I am also Grammy to my 2yr old granddaughter!!. Honestly, after 65 years of life’s lessons, I finally made it! I just came to the realization that I have only ONE close friend. Last year was a tragic end to a 50yr friendship to one I referred to as my sister. I miss the person I thought I knew. I lived in this city 40 yrs. Now,
    I am perplexed with how to make another friend. I am an introvert. Socializing with a large group of acquaintances is not me. I don’t like to join groups because I don’t want to be
    obligated. I spent the past 65 yrs fulfilling obligations to family & career. God granted me this blessing of complete peace. I am not going to
    waste it!! I am hoping ya’ll will give me some suggestions or advice. Thanks so much! Like being alone but not lonely..

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    • Fran says

      June 29, 2018 at 7:26 am

      A little humorous that I should come across all this today. I read in a book on old age how hard it is to make friends in older age, to find others with similar interests. And I truly think it is. With that said: I pretty much could have written your post. Except for the 50-year friendship (you are fortunate — most people don’t even have one friendship of 20 years). I’m very sorry it broke up. Anyway, I don’t know what to tell you. I’m almost 70, I retired 13 years ago, I moved out of my home state (and I have no regrets), and I’ve been without a good friend ever since. Also, I don’t have any family. I did all the traveling I ever wanted to do when I was in my 20s and 30s, so I don’t even have travel to look forward to. :-) I get very lonely every so often but I am far from miserable. BUT my saving grace is that I am a voracious reader of non-fiction, AND I have MANY interests. I also love getting my car and exploring my gorgeous new home state. Also, for the past few years, I’ve been working on getting my city’s Christian churches to DO something for their aging members — most of their members are 60+ but the churches act like they older member don’t exist. //// I’m also fortunate in that I live in the best city to grow old in in The US. (My state and city don’t have good medical care, but if ya don’t mind dying relatively young, this is a GREAT city for old people. LOL) //// You’re only 65. I still felt young at 65. When you’re 70, you may not be so happy you could bust. I also doubt that you currently live in complete peace — if you did, you wouldn’t be on this board. :-) But the good news is that: you are an introvert and that is going to be a huge blessing as the years go by. Most of my peers who I am acquainted with are alone and miserable. So — count your big blessing.

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  2. Sakib says

    May 08, 2018 at 5:57 pm

    I’ve noticed that you feel less alone when you give or receive hugs.

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  3. Lorrainecloudupandcry says

    March 17, 2018 at 6:26 pm

    Nailed it!! I’d like to add one to your list. When I am out and about I wear a real smile and make eye contact with strangers, and even just give them a greeting. In most cases I get a positive reaction which creates a flow of positive energy between me and the stranger. I usually arrive home feeling more positive energy in my heart. I have found that when I do not do this exercise I usually arrive home feeling very tired and my loneliness sets in again. Just being kind to others who don’t expect it makes me feel more alive.
    Thank you, Luna, for being there for me/us, the loners of the world.
    Much love to you and Sol.

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    • Fran says

      June 29, 2018 at 7:32 am

      I do this too, Lorraine. :-)

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  4. McChicken Tenders says

    March 15, 2018 at 11:18 am

    Whenever I go to interact with others as my true self, they seem nice temporarily but then they evolve into pricks, continuing the cycle of feeling like shit. So honestly, I never need other people and I’d be chill living by myself. The main issue is, I can’t. I’m stuck in a place I don’t feel I belong in, with people I don’t get along with. So it’s hard to not feel lonely. I know that I have been and always will be there for myself. Sometimes, that doesn’t seem to be enough though. Not particularly because I feel like I’m not enough, but because I just continue to crave contact no matter how many reasons I try to come up with for it. I legit have no reason to want company. In fact, I don’t have any friends currently because of being stuffed around so many times. As for my family, it is small (made up of only 3 people currently, me included in that 3) but just as drama-filled as any other. I just, reeeeaaally fucking hate everybody. I hate that I feel the need to have company. I didn’t ask for this feeling. It just, exists, without reason. Maybe if I stop focusing on it it’ll go away, idk. Not that I am particularly focused on it, with all the work I have to do. Idk. I just feel like a people puppet all the time. “Yo look, it’s the legit person, time to fuck them up because I feel like it.” That type of shit. Whoopdedoo, I don’t feel lonely anymore, just pissed. Yep. Fucking hate everyone here. Don’t need them. They’re worthless piles of shit trying to plant themselves on top of me to pin me down for their entertainment. Ain’t nobody got time fo’ dat. Maybe it’s kindness I miss? Nah, people are nice all the time, just temporarily and falsely. I wanna meet some real people someday. These guys are just 2D props with issues.

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    • Sara says

      March 18, 2018 at 8:46 pm

      I like how you express yourself.

      Reply
  5. Lonely girl forever says

    February 20, 2018 at 7:12 am

    Today I felt the shock of my life when I realised that people I called friend were no where near that word. I feel so lonely that I feel like dying. My life has always being like this. I sometimes wonder if there is something wrong with me. I strongly believe that there is no hope for me

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    • Naijachick says

      May 21, 2018 at 10:48 pm

      You are the reason why these things happen to you. How? you might ask. Its the law of attraction. Its a mindset. You need to change your believe that it happens to you all the time and that there’s no hope for you. I used to think like you and it kept me back for so long with great pain. I promise you it will never stop until you change your thinking and your confessions. There is hope for you. Read “The Secret” and thank God.

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  6. cuckstein says

    February 07, 2018 at 9:18 am

    How about the basic shitty systematic crap u can find anywhere abut the same answers to that every question u ever had about the same shit over and over… :/ How about reality of things? Where nothing ever actually will get any better or fixed cuz of the fucking looping system we’re born to, and forced to live our whole fucking lives as robots, paying taxes regardless of our income or country, so that rich fucks can be richer?!! What about ppl that already been through it? Guess they simply vanished, cuz they don’t fit ur fucking selfish agenda of the cunts that u are!!! Fuck off with ur politically correct censorship crap :/ its exactly what im talking about. Life was never meant to be any better for anyone other than the fucking corrupted scum that enjoy the high life since birth.

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  7. Michelle says

    January 20, 2018 at 3:39 pm

    I have a big family and one best friend who lives far away I have a job that I love but I still feel lonely some times I can’t tell them what my problems are because they don’t understand so I try to deal with them myself I am single sometimes I think I I had a partner I would feel not do lonely but at the end of the day the sadness in my heart I know it’s up to me to make me happy

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  8. Elune says

    October 22, 2017 at 5:29 am

    Thanks for the article, I love your site. The problem is, I feel lonely and hopeless because I lost my best friend (and soulmate), he betrayed me. Prior to that I didn’t really feel lonely, even if I didn’t have anyone close to me. Now I miss the connection, the ability to share my life with someone who understands. I feel like nothing I based my life on is real and I can’t trust anyone. (Wonder if that’s dark night of the soul :(). I feel like we’re alone our whole life. Nothing is sure, everything changes. What’s true and what’s an illusion?
    Something inside of me is dying, and I don’t know if anything new will be born, or if I’ll die with it.

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  9. nightingale rani says

    September 06, 2017 at 8:25 pm

    hi I’ve read your article and it is useful thank U i hope you have advices for feeling lonely in the morning when i wake up

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  10. Alice says

    December 12, 2016 at 3:18 pm

    Hi thanks for your article. Recently I feel so alone since I work from home and rarely have chance to hang out with my so called “friends”. I’ve been slammed with so many disappointments from people, in this case my friends. I have high expectations toward people. I have been a good friend to them, I be there for them and always keen to spend quality time with them.

    But since these couple of months, my friends seems distant, its really hard to get together and I feel like they are always making up excuses not to able to show up. One of my friend even doesn’t follow up to our hang out date when we already set the date to meet up, I asked her 2 times if she will be able to make it and she said she will let me know. And the day goes by, I havent heard from her for weeks. My other friend never initiate to do hangout anymore and everytime I asked her, she always said she can’t make it, yet she never try to initiate other time (what makes me feel down is when I know she was able hung out with her other friend the other day).

    I often asked myself is there anything wrong with me?
    Yesterday I poured out my feelings to my boyfriend. He is the only who stick with me all these times. Sometimes I’m ashamed to the fact that I am friend-less and I see that as a fatal flaw of being a human. My boyfriend and I are getting married in 2 months. I even asked him couple of times if he is sure about marrying me because I feel lacking friends is really big deal. I thanked God that my boyfriend still loves me no matter what. Right now he is the only one who understand me and I am grateful for him.

    Even though I have a boyfriend, sometimes when I am alone I feel so lonely. I googled on “tips to live without friends” and I found your article. I read the comment sections, then I know I’m never alone. There are many sincere beautiful people out there who feel lonely too, some of them even didn’t choose to be lonely.

    Afterall we are social beings. I believe life will give meaning to us when we are able to connect with other people. And maybe we haven’t found the right person yet, those beautiful souls who we called true friends. In my waiting I decide to love myself more, to take care of myself first :)

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    • Sara says

      March 18, 2018 at 8:35 pm

      I like how you express yourself.

      Reply
    • Franco says

      April 19, 2018 at 3:00 am

      I am a 39 year old single male.I emigrated to a foreign country when I was 23 through a newspaper add, not because I was desperate for more money or a better life but because I always felt betrayed and suffocated by all the hypocrisy around those so called friends.I preferred to get away from it all.Those so called friends never thought I would go away, that some how I was buried under all the sh.t they enjoy talking about and call life,which is simply talking bad and judging others…At the beginning I will not lie, it is a bit hard being by yourself, but better being by myself than being a coward that prefers to be around evil people who keep putting you down, only because they are too afraid to be alone.We are born alone and we will die alone.The only person that matters in my life is my mother and if it wasn’t for her I would never give those pr…s a chance to speak or see me again.We have to try to be happy in the simple things we find and love, be kind to the less fortunate, be thankful for what you got cos there is always someone else less fortunate than you, if you have faith you know you are never alone, you will always have God as your friend.And please just if only…just be yourself…You are one of a kind and if people don’t like it they don’t deserve a second of your precious time…Peace and love each other…as He loves you…

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