If you’ve ever traveled to a new and unknown country/city, you’ve most likely felt the tingling excitement of wanting to experience as much as you can … but not knowing where to start.
You ask locals, seek out information, and read maps.
In essence, you’re looking for guidance; someone who has already traveled the paths, knows the byroads, and is able to point out the dangers and problems along the way.
The journey of reconnecting with your Soul (Soul Work) is much the same. Without any map, we need a guide who can give us the right directions, the necessary encouragement, and someone who can help us avoid the clutches of the ego.
The inner journey is the most difficult and challenging undertaking that we can ever make. When most people start the spiritual journey, they make the mistake of using the ego’s voice and limitations to guide themselves.
But using the ego to seek transcendence is like asking a fish to describe what water is: it can’t possibly know what it’s really looking for!
Without mature spiritual guidance, we easily get lost, deluded, confused, and discouraged. In this article, my goal is to help you learn how to find authentic spiritual guides that can deepen your path of inner transformation.
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11 Authentic Forms of Spiritual Guidance
If you’re feeling lost on your life journey and need spiritual guidance, let me give you an overview. From a bird’s eye perspective, there are numerous paths available to you. The major ones include:
- Spiritual teachers and gurus (what we will be focusing on in this article)
- Personal spirit guides (Read: 7 Types of Spirit Guides (& How to Connect With Them)
- Spiritual books, courses, and workshops (some, not all, are helpful – be discerning)
- Dream work (Read: How to Practice Dream Work (& Decipher Your Psyche)
- Learning to trust your intuition (Read: How to Trust Your Intuition)
- Astral travel (or active imagination)
- Automatic handwriting (Read: How to Channel Your Soul Through Automatic Writing)
- Meditation and visualizations
- Altered states of consciousness (Read: How to Induce a Trance State For Deep Psychospiritual Work)
- Esoteric practices such as reading the I Ching, Runes, or Oracle and Tarot cards
- Nature-oriented guidance such as going on a vision quest or ingesting a plant medicine like Ayahuasca
While some of these paths require tremendous commitment (these are usually the best), others require temporary or minimal effort. It’s important to focus on your current needs and desires to determine which paths to follow.
For instance, if you’re a busy mother of three children, maybe abandoning everything to follow a guru isn’t exactly a great idea. As always, be sensitive to your life context and ask yourself, “What is my core desire?“
Also, the above list isn’t exhaustive (I’m sure I’ve missed something) – you’ll find gaps, I’m sure. But I hope it has given you a clear overview on the kind of spiritual guidance paths available to you.
So what next?
In the rest of this article, we’ll be focusing specifically on how to find genuine spiritual teachers – one of the most spiritually healing (but also dangerous) paths out there. Here’s what you need to know:
Why We Need Spiritual Teachers
We may study books all our lives, we may become very intellectual, but in the end we find that we have not developed at all spiritually … To quicken the spirit, the impulse must come from another soul. The person from whose soul such impulse comes is called the Guru – the teacher.– Swami Vivekananda
In the realm of spirituality, true teachers never really teach you anything in the conventional way. They don’t want to provide new beliefs, rules, or information for you to cling to. Instead, they help you to remove that which is in the way, that which separates you from the truth of who you already are and what you already know in the depth of your being.
In other words, a true teacher’s job is to serve as a mirror, until we’re able to realize that the light within them is also the light within us.
In the words of the 6th century sage Lao Tzu:
The Sage has no fixed heart of his own. Those who look at him see their own hearts.
True spiritual teachers are like empty vessels that are filled with nothing. Through them, we experience the limitless, untouched ocean of love that can be found in all things. Through them, we also become conscious of whatever is blocking our ability to experience light. Whether it be past wounds, mental attachments, or egotistical desires, these blocks become the next part of your inner work.
I can say from personal experience that many spiritual seekers begin with the craving to find stimulating ideas, theories, beliefs, and intellectual discussions. But under the wings of a true spiritual teacher, they eventually end up becoming disappointed.
Seekers who are looking for novel or glittery ideas become disillusioned because such ideas are only signposts towards the Truth – they are not the Truth itself. And in many cases, these novel ideas actually become distractions that mislead us into the labyrinths of the mind again.
In the end, it’s true that the best Teacher is within us, that our ultimate guide is our own Souls. But how can those of us who have no idea what the Soul looks or feels like possibly guide ourselves when we are stumbling through the dark?
For the vast majority of people, a teacher, guru, guide, mentor, spiritually knowledgeable therapist, or even a wise soul friend or twin flame, is invaluable on the path toward a more awakened state.
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How to Find a True Spiritual Guide?
In ancient Shamanic wisdom, we don’t find a teacher; the teacher finds us.
Spirit Animals are one example of this truth: we don’t find our spirit animals, our spirit animals find us.
Once our thirst for answers awakens and we begin our spiritual awakening quest, the light within us becomes stronger, and the stronger it becomes, the more we attract guides and people that support our growth. For example, it’s common for spiritual seekers to receive guidance from spiritual signs and omens, prophetic dreams, and even serendipitous teachings or messages.
Sometimes it takes years for spiritual teachers and spiritual guidance to find us. But when they come, how do we know whether they’re the right teacher for us?
Understandably, most people feel some level of fear when considering becoming involved with a teacher. Deep down we fear being used, exploited, or entrapped.
The truth is that we are only ever trapped by our own desires, attachments, and what we project onto the teacher. If we truly seek liberation, then all teachers are merely vehicles of learning – and that’s as far as their role extends.
In my experience, you can tell that you’ve found your teacher when you feel an immediate strong and intense link of love for their teachings. Your heart will feel open and elevated when reading this person’s words or sitting in their presence.
But how do we know if these feelings are sincere? How do we know that we’re not just being charmed or given a false sense of security?
Here I find that the Sufi tradition has a wonderful approach where the disciples are allowed to test their Sheikhs (teachers).
Abū-Sa’īd Abul-Khayr was a poet and Sufi mystic who was one of the first to describe the qualities to look for as proof in a true teacher.
There are at least ten characteristics of a true spiritual teacher:
1. S/he must have embodied the spiritual message to be able to have disciples.
2. S/he must have personally traveled the mystic path to be able to show the way.
3. S/he must have become refined and educated in order to be an educator.
4. S/he must be generous and devoid of self-importance so that s/he can sacrifice wealth on behalf of the disciple.
5. S/he must have no hand in the disciple’s wealth so that s/he is not tempted to use it for himself/herself.
6. Whenever s/he can give advice through a sign, s/he will not use direct expression.
7. Whenever s/he can educate through kindness, s/he will not use violence and harshness.
8. Whatever s/he orders, s/he has first accomplished.
9. Whatever s/he forbids the disciple, s/he has abstained from himself/herself.
10. S/he will not abandon the students for the sake of the world.
These characteristics are a starting point to help us distinguish between power, greed, or status-hungry “teachers” and genuine vehicles of Spirit that contribute to our evolution.
Unlike other teachers, spiritual guides are faced with the most difficult teaching of all: to teach others the way of ego death and surrender into divine truth. Ultimately, the teacher is a ferryman who takes you from the shores of your ego to the shores of Divine Union.
Anandamayi Ma, described as “the most perfect flower the Indian soil has produced,” once explained that a disciple’s attitude is more important than the guru.
Ultimately, no one can give us self-realization. We must find it ourselves. An outer teacher can only reveal the real teacher hidden within us.
Even the false teachers we come across on the way help us to learn the value of developing our own sense of spiritual discernment and judgment.
Finding a true teacher and genuine spiritual guidance, deep down, is about discovering how sincere we are on our spiritual quest.
Honest seekers understand that the outer world is only a catalyst for bringing us closer to the truth that is already hidden within us.
I hope this article has helped to educate, empower, and inspire you. If it has, please let me know in the comments below!
Very good article! Thanks
Profound wisdom shared in this article…
This article describes my experiences…..
I am having an amazing journey I’m not perfect but I’m aiming for as close as I can get. Your insight has helped me alot. I’m being guided to give out info. Not sure where I’m headed but it’s magical and mysterious so far. Sharing epiphanies as I find them.
It’s true, the guide will find you. During my spiritual emergency back in 2012, I was drawn to my guide even though I had never heard of him. Whenever I see him, I am lost in him and can’t focus on his words. When I try to speak, it is as if I’ve lost my tongue. He has “cleaned” me up (spiritually) so many times and in so many ways since then.
There is not two. There is one. One consciousness and every one is a manifestation of same consciousness. Teacher and student both are same. Who is the teacher, is the student too. The power of believe originates from the consciousness. Suppose ABC is a student and XYZ is a teacher. Both are derived from the same consciousness. ABC is ready to believe on someone and he needs someone to on whom he can develop the full faith and believe. The criteria, ABC kept here who can fill the divine love in his heart. Who can take him close to love. Who can make him to realize taste of silence, peace and self. Then ABC keep his believe on him. If XYZ dose these for ABC then XYZ can be a trustworthy. Now XYZ doesn’t do anything to prove himself and also he finds those ABCs, who are in the genuine search of truth. A genuine search originates from the mind who are more closer to consciousness. No teacher exists without any student. Student who make someone a teacher. A full hearten believe can evaporate all possible egos and make a student to surrender for his master. Due to complete surrender… Read more »
After many, many years following Teacher/Guru Prem Rawat aka Maharaji, many of these followers are now suffering from Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome. A Psycholigist also recently told a friend “you’d be surprised how many followers are now clients suffering from Narcissistic abuse”. Prem Rawat said for years “Dedicate your life to me and I will bring you peace”. I haven’t met one devotee that demonstrates this. One needs to be very careful when looking/trusting/searching/ for spiritual teachers that you’re not providing a Malignant Narcissist Teacher with “Narcissistic supply” by being their devotee/student. Some Teachers/Gurus are so good at enslaving and brainwashing the student/interested aspirant, that the students end up many years later realizing they’ve been conned/hoodwinked & taken advantage of by Predatory Narcissistic followers & the Teacher. Clue: Common sense & critical thinking is crucial in searching/evaluating a Teacher/guru, despite it being frowned upon by a Predatory Narcissistic spiritual Teacher. Please, choose/search wisely !!!
Sol, dear one, i would also like to ask: I think of myself as a developing soul, one that is ready to learn and i most definatly go through hard things in my day to day life, also i have made it a habbit to learn something from almost everything (if not everything) i go through. I know that I am a person who is willing to learn, and i have the most amazing emotional- mental- spiritual teacher (her name is Sara) but i keep finding out through my practice that i am not as spiritual as i think i am (maybe its just my soul revealing my ego to me. Actually, yeah , that makes scense). Everytime i discover i have a huge amount of ego i feel so disappointed, and than i ask myself “Maybe im not as developed as i think of myself?”… It makes me feel like i have not really developed in my spiritual path and that im only SAYING to myself I have (developed). But actually now that i think of this, it makes me think that in those moments i discover that, there are two voices that cant work together which are the… Read more »
Sol, my love, you reveal a most precious soul on your writings… Youve helped me alot , thank you! Harel
Last night I said to myself that I’m beyond help, that I will never be at peace with myself, that this spiritual journey that I think I’m walking is just a fairytale made by my broken mind. I even think it would be better if I lived in a mental hospital, so I could be free to be me and everyone else would simply see me as a crazy person.
It’s really bitter, bitter thought, I know. And I am that bitter right now.
I don’t know, I just gave up. I took back my trust from everyone, including my teacher. Then this morning I read this article.
I really don’t know what to say.