You feel lost in life. You’re sick of your job, your relationships are mediocre at best, your friendships are boring and empty, you feel dead inside, and you’ve lost the zest for life …
Can you relate to any of these feelings or experiences?
If you can, you might be going through an increasingly common experience known as the existential crisis. In other words, you’re at a crossroads in life: you’re feeling stuck, and you’re starting to crave a more meaningful existence.
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So, what’s the solution to this gnawing angst?
Soul searching.
You might have heard this term before but not given it much attention or importance. Am I right?
Well, I’m here today to point out that (1) you’ve arrived at this page for a reason, and (2) soul searching is a vital part of every life journey in this world.
In this article, my intention is to show you why and how.
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What Does Soul Searching Mean? (Definition)
Simply put, soul searching is the quest to answer life’s problems and questions.
When most people refer to ‘soul searching,’ they are often talking about uncovering truth and happiness by questioning our thoughts, habits, and motivations. But soul searching also has a deeper meaning.
At its core, soul searching is a desire to return to the center of your being. Quite literally, it is a journey to find your Soul and reconnect with your True Nature. In other words, it is a spiritual path. And usually, it marks the beginning of the spiritual awakening journey.
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Why Soul Loss is the Root Cause of Soul Searching
Why do some of us have such an intense, visceral desire to soul search? To find what is meaningful, true, authentic, and deep?
The answer is soul loss.
When we are disconnected from our souls, we feel anxious, depressed, lonely, isolated, and chronically dissatisfied with life.
To overcome this pain, we need to reconnect with the deepest, rawest, most alive, and fundamental part of ourselves.
Indigenous and shamanic cultures for thousands of years have known about the phenomenon of soul loss, and it’s an increasing epidemic in our society.
In our age of technology, in a society run on materialistic ideals and egotism, we are becoming increasingly disconnected from the wild, raw, and primal Center of our being.
As teacher and author Gary Zukav writes:
We have not turned our attention to the needs of the soul. We have not considered what is required by the soul in order to be healthy. We have not studied the soul, or sought to help it attain what is necessary to its evolution and its health. Because we have been fivesensory, we have focused upon the body and the personality. We have developed an extensive knowledge of the physical apparatus that the soul assumes when it incarnates. We know of amino acids, neurotransmitters, chromosomes, and enzymes, but we do not know of the soul.
So, what exactly is soul loss?
As we explain in our soul loss article:
When we experience Soul Loss, a part of our Soul – or living essence – ‘hides’ or shuts away, hindering us from expressing and experiencing our true potential and wholeness as human beings. Often times entire aspects of our psyches are completely blocked out or repressed.
There are many causes of soul loss. Some of the common reasons are listed below:
- Childhood trauma (physical, emotional, mental, or sexual abuse; divorce; immigration; death in the family; abandonment, bullying, etc.)
- Adult trauma (job loss, poverty, rape, violence, divorce, mental health issues, isolation, accidents, death of loved ones, discrimination, etc.)
- Social conditioning
- Religious brainwashing
- Overuse of technology/entertainment (i.e., a form of numbing and escapism)
- Inherited ancestral trauma
- Materialism
- Scientific/reductionist values and structure of society
… and the list goes on.
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Essentially, anything that threatens our physical, mental, or emotional survival – and any addictive, one-sided, suppressive ideology or habit – causes soul loss.
As a result, most of us feel a nagging, looming feeling that something is wrong …
Something is missing. We’re not happy with ourselves or our lives, no matter how popular, successful, or attractive we are.
Something is always missing.
And what’s missing is the connection we have with our Soul, which is the doorway to our True Nature.
19 Signs You’re a Lost Soul
The truth is that most people in society are lost souls.
They don’t know about their deeper Self, aren’t interested in it, and have never dipped into the vast waters of their True Nature. Instead, they operate solely from the ego, the false self, that was constructed since childhood to defend against the overwhelming magnitude of Life.
Even when such people do begin to hear the longing of the soul to break free and be seen, they suppress it. They go back to the beliefs, habits, and structures in society that reinforce mindlessness and soullessness – because it’s easier, it’s less intimidating and less confronting.
But eventually, the longing becomes so intense that they have no choice but to listen. This is the beginning of the spiritual awakening process: the dismantling of the ego and the blossoming of our Soul, which longs to reunite with our True Nature as Spirit or Consciousness.
However, there’s an in-between place: a limbo. This is the space where lost souls dwell.
In this limbo, a dance between the old dissolving and the new not-yet-coming-into-being is deeply felt.
It’s at this point that we tend to feel stuck, lost, empty, alone, and scared. There is the temptation to go back to old ways of being, but at the same time, there’s a profound sense of dissatisfaction with everything.
If you’re stuck in this limbo, you might experience the following symptoms:
- You feel constantly lethargic and fatigued
- You have no motivation and feel restless
- You feel alone
- You feel unhappy with your life
- You crave something ‘more’
- You’ve become the outsider or the black sheep of the family
- You’re frequently irritable and moody
- You’re undergoing a mid-life or quarter-life crisis
- You’re more prone to addictions
- You struggle with self-loathing
- You keep trying to numb the pain, but nothing works
- You feel fundamentally ‘broken’
- You struggle with existential depression and anxiety
- You feel like something is missing inside of you
- You’re bored and dissatisfied with others and life
- You feel stuck and stranded
- You struggle with feeling empty inside
- You don’t know who you are anymore
- You want to know what the point of everything is
Can you relate?
If so, you’re certainly not alone.
Welcome to the Lost Souls Club. Motto: I can’t get no satisfaction.
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How to Practice Soul Searching (7 Paths)
It’s because we feel separate from oneness that we begin to search, the search for completion, the search to come home.
– Jeff Foster
It’s easy to soul search in the modern secularized sense of the term. All we need to do is introspect a little and ask ourselves some pointed questions. Traveling is often touted as a great way to soul search for young, bright-eyed seekers.
But soul searching, in the spiritual sense of the term, goes much deeper than just hopping on a plane to Bali. Nevertheless, to my knowledge, it is the most worthy and important pursuit in existence.
What could be more vital than connecting with your innate, fundamental, spiritual Essence?
If you’re seeking to answer questions about mundane issues (like what job will I suit, should I get married, etc.) then perhaps the below recommendations won’t satisfy you.
On the other hand, if you’re looking to dive deep, learn how to find yourself, how to be true to yourself, and open a door to your True Nature, keep reading:
1. Make friends with solitude
Solitude will be your greatest ally when it comes to soul searching.
You need to be a lone wolf. How else can you listen to the whispers of your soul in a chaotic, noisy world? It’s extremely difficult to go within unless you have undergone years of rigorous meditation training (which, mind you, most people haven’t).
So make regular time and space to spend time in solitude by yourself away from others – no technology interruptions either (digital people are still people)!
Think about dedicating ten minutes to half an hour (or more) each day to a solitary activity of your choice. You might choose something passive, such as meditation, or active, such as taking a stroll through the woods. Honor your level of energy and go with it.
2. Explore the nature of your ego
If your soul is your true individuated essence, your ego is your false self: it’s the mask you present to the world.
Your ego is much like a cloud. It appears to have form, but it changes and morphs constantly.
Question: have you ever noticed that you put on different roles with different people? Yep. That’s your ego in action – it’s not solid, and essentially, it’s a misrepresentation of who you really are.
Unfortunately, our ego genuinely believes it is who we really are. Because it’s so convinced that it’s real, it will reject any attempt to dismantle it because it perceives that as a death threat. And so, growth of any kind is extremely difficult because the ego is always trying to protect itself.
As we can see, exploring the nature of your ego (and learning to see through it gently) is a crucial step in your soul searching journey. In fact, it’s the single biggest block to embodying who you really are.
To explore the nature of the ego, we need a combination of inner work and soul work. Inner work deals with the dissolving of blockages in our psyches, while soul work is the practice of surrendering to the Divine.
Some ways to explore your ego that combine inner work and soul work include:
- Journaling – writing down your thoughts, self-beliefs, habits, likes, dislikes, and so on
- Self-inquiry – looking within and asking “Who am I?” and seeing what changes, fades, or dies (these are your ego elements); paradoxically, we discover who we are by seeing who we are not.
- Various forms of spiritual meditation – there are so many ways to learn how to witness your thoughts and the stories constructed by the mind – one of the most common types is vipassana meditation
These three simple practices can have a tremendous impact on your ability to see clearly and experience the truth of who you really are.
3. Reconnect with your child self
As author and psychotherapist Dr. Neal Marshall Goldsmith writes:
The soul … is this part of us that is the earliest, deepest, and the most authentic part of us.
Your inner child carries the original qualities of your soul that you were born with. And thankfully, it’s not that difficult to reconnect with your inner child.
I’ve written a lot about inner child work on this website in the past, but to summarize, here are a few ways to tap into your childhood self:
- Write a letter to your inner child
- Do an inner child visualization or meditation (here are some free inner child healing affirmations we’ve created and shared on YouTube)
- Look at pictures of your inner child
- Do something your inner child loved to do when you were little
- Start each morning with an inner child journaling practice (see our highly rated Inner Child Journal for in-depth guidance!)
Approach these activities gently. Make observations about your younger self and what they want or need from you. Also, reflect on the you now and the you then. What qualities from your inner child can you integrate more into your life?
4. Reflect, introspect, and visualize
Soul searching is an inner adventure. Therefore, the practices and steps you take toward finding your inner Center will often require reflection and introspection.
Additionally, visualization enhances these two qualities and helps you to retrieve knowledge and guidance through the power of imagination.
Poet and philosopher Mark Nepo shares a beautiful visualization in his book The Book of Awakening:
Close your eyes and breathe your way beneath your troubles, the way a diver slips to that depth of stillness that is always waiting beneath the churning of the waves.
Now, consider two things you love doing, such as running, drawing, singing, bird-watching, gardening, or reading.
Meditate on what it is in each of these that makes you feel alive.
Hold what they have in common before you, and breathing slowly, feel the spot of grace these dear things mirror within you.
This example of reflection, introspection, and visualization is perfect for soul searching as it gets you in touch with your basic aliveness: the essence of your soul.
You can listen to or create any visualization that appeals to you; just make sure it’s soul-directed.
5. Connect with nature and the wildness within you
Nature is tremendously healing and revivifying to the human soul.
We often think of ourselves as separate from nature. We’re human and “above” nature, after all, right? Wrong. We’re an inseparable part of nature. Our blood, bones, hair, skin, and entrails are all stuff of the earth: animalistic, carnal, and corporeal.
Despite centuries of domestication, the human soul still retains its innate, fundamentally wild nature.
We are not wild in the sense of ‘uncontrollable’ or ‘feral,’ but wild in the sense that the Center of our being can’t fully be tamed: it is essentially free. We are, at our core, all free spirits. We see this in moments of heroism, in the primal screams of childbirth, in the grunts of lovemaking, and in the belly-deep laughs of mirth.
To get in touch with our basic wildness, our inner wolf, is to unite with a fundamental quality of the soul – and that can easily be rediscovered in the domain of nature.
$3It’s not difficult or taxing to reconnect with nature. All it requires is just a couple of minutes a day outside, mindfully observing the trees, the animals, the clouds, and the sun rays beaming through the clouds. If you’re lucky enough to live close to a natural reserve, you might like to practice the Japanese art of Forest Bathing or take a blanket and have a picnic.
If you’re in the city, there’s still the opportunity to connect with nature. Go to the local park, listen to sounds of nature on your phone, or buy a potted plant. When your heart is open, there are endless ways for nature to creep, dig, weave, and sprout its way into your life.
6. Ask some soul searching questions
Questions are simple and direct ways of finding your personal truth. And living truthfully is living authentically: it is respecting the nature of your own soul.
Some questions you might like to ask during your soul searching journey might include the following:
- Who am I?
- What do I want in life?
- What is the meaning of life?
- What is my true purpose?
- What is authentic within me?
- What is inauthentic within me?
- What does happiness mean to me?
- What would truly fulfill me?
- Where is my ego an obstacle?
- What is a soul quality of mine?
- What legacy do I want to leave?
These are only a few examples of soul searching questions, so feel free to create and ask your own.
If you need more guidance on journaling as a beginner, see my free guide on how to journal (there are 19 essential tips, so be sure to check them out!).
7. Find your soul space and place
Sound confusing? I’ll explain.
A soul place is a physical location that deeply calls to you: it speaks to your soul. You might feel a sense of nostalgic longing for this place or a sense of deep resonance and almost mystical significance.
Soul places can be mundane areas (such as your backyard), untouched areas (such as a place in the wilderness), or holy sites (such as Stonehenge, Uluru, Notre Dame Cathedral, etc.).
You will feel a sense of expansion in these places, deep peace, and like you have finally ‘found home.’ What happens when you feel this way is that you’ve found an external representation of the inner heaven within you. That’s why soul places touch us so deeply.
Your soul space (as opposed to a soul place), on the other hand, is an inner experience of your True Nature. We often inhabit our soul spaces in moments of prayer, contemplation, altered states of consciousness, and deep meditation.
As Mark Nepo writes,
Each person is born with an unencumbered spot—free of expectation and regret, free of ambition and embarrassment, free of fear and worry—an umbilical spot of grace where we were each first touched by God. It is this spot of grace that issues peace. Psychologists call this spot the Psyche, theologians call it the Soul, Jung calls it the Seat of the Unconscious, Hindu masters call it Atman, Buddhists call it Dharma, Rilke calls it Inwardness, Sufis call it Qalb, and Jesus calls it the Center of our Love. To know this spot of Inwardness is to know who we are, not by surface markers of identity, not by where we work or what we wear or how we like to be addressed, but by feeling our place in relation to the Infinite and by inhabiting it.
To inhabit this soul space, we need to break through the barriers of the ego through various methods of inner work – that is the doing side of things. The other side is being: we need a practice that helps us to cultivate inner stillness and silence (found through the practice of soul work). And the best method I know of for experiencing this state is meditation.
Therefore, I recommend practicing meditation (or dwelling in your soul place) regularly as you discover your soul space in this world – one enhances the other in an electric sort of way.
A few deep meditations you can experiment with include using a mantra such as “I Am,” using the self-inquiry method of “Who am I?” or practicing open awareness where you allow all sounds, sensations, and thoughts to rise and fall like waves in the ocean.
I am the drop that contains the sea.
How beautiful to be an ocean
hidden within an infinite drop.
– Yunus Emre
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To soul search is to be fully human and to embark on the greatest journey that life offers us: the spiritual quest.
I hope this article and the guidance I’ve offered have inspired you to dive deeper and reunite with the Essence of your deeper Self.
In conclusion, I’ll leave you with a beautiful soul searching quote by poet and novelist Herman Hesse:
All births mean separation from the All, the confinement within limitation, the separation from God, the pangs of being born ever anew. The return into the All, the dissolution of painful individuation, the reunion with God means the expansion of the soul until it is able once more to embrace the All.
Tell me: what difficulties have you faced on your soul searching journey? What triumphs? I’d love to hear from you below.
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Ego is like a prison guard made from shadows of ignorance.
From where it comes from it knows not whence.
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Hi Aletheia my name is Martin I thank you for all your work. I am finally getting answers to where I am in life and what is happening to me .. My Question are being answered by you.. I didn’t know what was happening to me I was giving up on life.. But I’m working on finding my way.. Thanks to you and other good people who do this type of work.. In helping people like me in finding there true meaning in life.. THANK YOU..
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Even though I resonate with being a free spirit and soul searching I don’t understand why God and praying has to be included in the search.
It doesn’t, Lizzy. God means different things to different people, for one it might be a white dude in the sky, for another it might represent a non-physical cosmic force of nature. Prayer also doesn’t need to be religious (see this article for an explanation: https://lonerwolf.com/the-power-of-prayer/). ♡
I’ve read other comments and I feel similarly. It’s a bit like playing snakes and ladders. But now I’ve realised that because the journey is not linear it is probably not happening the way I think it should. I guess I have to have these human experiences to learn and grow on the journey anyway. The main thing is that I am aware of actions I can take that can keep me in alignment and this makes me feel good
I just “found” you! This is amazing. I believe if we can all learn to listen…we can have everlasting peace. I’ve had de je vues, since age 5, visions some that turned out to be warnings, others; I’m unsure of the reason. I lost my husband of 32 years. I knew at 19 when we met I’d known him before. I know I’ll be with him again. Time ….though is hard, they say in “heaven” there’s no time, 100 years is a blink of an eye. I strive to “hear”the direction of God, the angels, ancestors, whomever is relaying a message/directions, I hope to always be open to “listening”. I’m sure I’m only receiving a fraction, striving to do better.
Soul searching is so beautiful at times, and then suddenly it just stops, it’s like hitting a wall. I meditate for weeks, months and then I don’t want to. It stops. I don’t even think about it. Then suddenly it hits me that I only watch Netflix and don’t read, not your website, not a book, nothing. What I talk about is not being lazy, this is something else. It’s like the darkness tells me to do nothing that is actually good for me, and just consume. When I become aware, I fight like hell to start meditating again, start enjoying nature, trying to read meaningful stuff. It’s a battle, I just wish it wasn’t. Sick of battling. Been through so much the last 15 years, dark night of the soul for sure, depressions, bipolar and so on.
These days I do experience really lovely and beautiful moments that I am so grateful for. Life is amazing. It’s far too easy to start complaining about whatever. But the darkness is always there to destroy, so it’s best to get to know it! Then everything becomes easier. The hard times isn’t as hard and it is possible to find inspiring material even on Netflix. ;-) We grow through different things, I study human behaviour in series and films. I also experience all kinds of emotions that way. In real life, with actual people, their emotions get in the way and I often need to put up a shield. It hurts too much being close to others for too long. And let’s be honest, it’s hard to find people to talk to, to have an actual interesting and meaningful conversation with. Guess that’s why I need to find my soul tribe. Please, it’s about time! Thank you!
Maria, I have had deeply intense connections with (I believe past connections) people, which I now know (and knew then for a few) that they were meant to be in my life but only for a short time. A man I met a year after my husband passed away had a son he was raising by himself he needed a mother and I needed to be a mom as my children were grown.This man (and his son) helped me a lot with learning to love again but I knew in my soul that this was not a long-term relationship we were put in each other’s lives for a short time and we were better people for having known each other. we were not compatible as a couple and we knew it we remain friends but his son who is now deceased I’ll miss forever and hope to see him again. You know in your soul this man you’re speaking of, is past his time to be in your life. Allow the next person room to come along and find you.
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Everything, everything I have lived through, felt, and witnessed in life you have spoken of or explained in amazing detail…
I have a soul place i found just 2019 I thought it was the person of the place being my soulmate, soulmates don’t destroy soulmates but he did me and I still long for that place, he is damaged as well so damaged that he fears being talked about in public and works at a manufacturing home plant worst place to work if that’s a fear….. He destroyed me over public talk horribly…… But if his place is my soul place what does this mean? Do I go there mentally or physically?
I find that this is all about the things inside me that are there always have been that there are questions to be answered, so much that has been ignored, suppressed, told to let go. Everything I have wanted to explore, and answers to all of those questions. I never knew what it was let alone it’s name. It’s the place I go when the world is too much, too hard. I can begin to celebrate moving forward to growing in the direction I have always felt inside that I have wanted to, but have no idea about. I’m able to recognize that this is a place I’m very familiar with. But until now have felt alone, except for knowing that this is where God is. This is the place that helps me when I don’t know what to do next. This is also the place when I’m there people call me ” sick ” . They don’t understand and they don’t know what I am talking about. I’m also having a new understanding of the need to dig into my dark closet and clean it out. This is dreadful and exciting both.
This life has been full of interesting times. For the first time in my 34 years, I am grateful for the experiences, good and bad, that have shaped me into who I am. My soul has always been… loud? I have suffered from mental illness for years due to childhood neglect, and whenever I am about to make really bad decisions, she speaks up. It’s why I’m still here. And for that, I am thankful. I am currently working towards listening more carefully to my soul, because I think that will make my life much better, as she ALWAYS knows what she wants (fruits and vegetables, outside time, a job with no phone calls, fluffy cats, friends, games, pictures, pretty things, music, etc.). Thank you for the article… it helps me connect with her, and of course, she really liked it. :)