The fear of rejection is ancient and primal. Biologically, we are wired to seek acceptance from those around us. The alternative is being cut off and isolated, and from an evolutionary standpoint, that equals death. So when we talk about the fear of rejection, we aren’t just raising discussion about some new neurosis. No. The […]
18 Signs You Lack Personal Boundaries (and Feel Constantly Used)
You feel pushed. Manipulated. Exploited. Dominated. Coerced. Pressured. Bullied. Controlled. The person in front of you has gone too far and has overstepped your personal boundaries. But you don’t know what to do. You feel weak and helpless. A quiet desperation rises inside of you. You feel like a fly stuck in a web. What […]
9 Ways to Awaken the Divine Masculine Within You
If any human being is to reach full maturity both the masculine and feminine sides of the personality must be brought up into consciousness. – M. Esther Harding We hear a lot these days about wild women, female spiritual ascension, and the awakening of the sacred feminine. Go on any form of social media and you’re […]
Splitting: The Defense Mechanism That Destroys Your Relationships
Have you ever wondered why you swing so quickly between loving and hating a person? Are your relationships characterized by extreme ups and downs? If so, you might be experiencing what psychologists call splitting – a nefarious defense mechanism that makes it difficult to hold down stable relationships. What is a Defense Mechanism? Defense mechanisms are […]
13 Signs You’re a Judgmental Person (and How to End the Habit)
We all generally prefer to see ourselves as smart, generous, kind, patient, and forgiving people most of the time. But the truth is that we aren’t. Life isn’t ideal. We aren’t perfect. We simply cannot be nice and ‘good’ 100% of the time. If we’re honest with ourselves, we actually have some pretty scary and […]
What is Toxic Shame? (The Little-Known Mental Illness)
“Shame on you!” How many times did you hear those words as a child? As children, our teachers would shame us for doing something naughty in class, just as our parents and peer group would occasionally shame us – sometimes intentionally, sometimes unintentionally. The experience certainly wasn’t pleasant, but the shame was temporary and it quickly […]
