The fear of rejection is ancient and primal. Biologically, we are wired to seek acceptance from those around us. The alternative is being cut off and isolated, and from an evolutionary standpoint, that equals death. So when we talk about the fear of rejection, we aren’t just raising discussion about some new neurosis. No. The […]
12 Signs You’ve Lost Your Authenticity and Are ‘Selling Out’
Authenticity is a big buzzword these days. “Be more authentic,” “honor your authenticity,” “find your authentic self” – we hear these phrases scattered all over the internet and spoken about everywhere. But what does being authentic mean? And most importantly, how can we tell when we’re being inauthentic – also known as “selling out”? What is Authenticity? […]
What is Toxic Shame? (The Little-Known Mental Illness)
“Shame on you!” How many times did you hear those words as a child? As children, our teachers would shame us for doing something naughty in class, just as our parents and peer group would occasionally shame us – sometimes intentionally, sometimes unintentionally. The experience certainly wasn’t pleasant, but the shame was temporary and it quickly […]
9 Exhilarating Ways to Be True to Yourself (Even When You’re Scared)
Let’s face it: pretending to be someone you’re not is one of the most disturbing experiences in the world. And realizing that you’ve pretended to be someone else is arguably even more distressing. But what do we do once we realize we’re not being honest with ourselves? All too often people make a big drama […]
People-Pleasing: The Hidden Dangers of Always Being “Too Nice”
You feel the pressure throb in your veins. A lump rises in your throat as your colleagues watch you closely. They are expecting an answer. They are expecting you to comply. Every fibre of your being wants to scream “NO I CAN’T.” But as if possessed, you automatically smile sweetly and say, “Yes, I’ll do […]
7 Inner Archetypes That Cripple Your Confidence and Self-Respect
The absence of self-love lies at the very core of every form of anxiety, depression, loneliness and emptiness that we feel as a species. In fact, low self-esteem is such a pandemic problem, that we get at least a handful of emails, Q&A’s and comments on this website about it every single day! Everyone in […]
